Thursday, 24 June 2010

Bankers aren't all bad!

Last week I got a phone call from my account manager at my bank. She had noticed that I'd gone over my overdraft limit a couple of times recently and wanted to know if there was anything they could do to help.
Well I had a couple of ideas of my own so I made an appointment to see her.
At lunchtime today I turned up at the bank to go over things with her and one of her colleagues.
Things went better than I thought they would and my finances look like they are going to be better than they were this morning.
Once everything had been sorted out and it was just the two of us she asked if there was anything else.
I looked at her and told her that yes there was. I then asked if it was possible to get my bank cards reissued but with just my initials and surname and without the Mr.
I was expecting her to say that it wasn't possible but she immediately started tapping away at her computer. Quite quickly she had a screen up and was getting the cards reissued in the way that I wanted.
She did ask me why I wanted the cards reissued like that and although I was tempted to explain I simply said it was personal. She accepted that and within minutes my debit cards were reissued.
I asked if it was possible to get my credit cards reissued as well and this is where it became more tricky. She had to phone up the card department. They also asked the reason and she said it was personal. Unfortunately the chap on the other end of the phone couldn't get the card reissued without a title but he was able to refer it to a different department which would be able to.
I was so chuffed, by the end of the month I should have a new set of cards which I can use in male mode but also more importantly when out and about as a female.
Roll on that shopping trip with L and Zee.

Wednesday, 16 June 2010


I've turned on comment moderation for the blog for the time being as I've had a couple of comments which have been trying to sell things or the profile has basically pointed at a porn site.
To everyone who has commented on my posts thank you as I really appreciate reading what you have to say.
To everyone who is following the blog thank you too as its nice to know that there are people out there interested in what I have to say from time to time.

Facebook Friends

This week my wife is away for a few days so that she can go to the funeral of her ex-stepdad on Thursday. I'm at home with my son because he has school to go to.
Last night we phoned my wife to speak to her so that my son could tell her what he'd been up to at school and also stay goodnight before he went to bed.
When he came off the phone I spent a few minutes chatting with my wife going over what we'd been doing and what we had to do before she comes back Thursday evening.
While we were chatting, completely out of the blue she mentioned that she had been on Facebook and had searched for her ex-fiancee, had found him, sent a friend request, which he had accepted and had chatted to him online.
Later on yesterday evening I popped onto Facebook and had a nose at her friends list and low and behold he was showing as a friend.
Now we've been together for nearly 17 years, she had split from him a year or two before we met. Unfortunately he came back into her life because of a flat that they'd owned together and had handed to the mortgage people who had sold it at a loss at the time then come chasing them for the remainder of the mortgage money years later.
Now the relationship was very rocky and he didn't treat her well, in fact her mum actually hit him and gave him a blackeye after one incident.
Over the years the wife has brought up various things that they did, she has evening mentioned his mum and how good their relationship was compared to the one that she has with my mum.

When I first got together with my wife I made the mistake of letting slip that I liked Marion, a work colleague, and would have loved it if our relationship could have gone further. There was no way that it could have due to us both being with other people. However, when we moved to the area we now live I still had the odd contact with Marion. Things came to a head at one point when after talking with Marion, the wife gave me an ultimatum which was to split up with her or to stop having contact with "the Bitch" as she called Marion.
Being deeply in love with my wife I allowed my friendship to fade.

Now 15 years later here I am finding out that my wife has now instigated contact with her ex. I can honestly say that I don't understand why she has done it. What I am beginning to understand is why you see reports in newspapers about relationships and marriages that break up because of what people do on Facebook.
To be honest if it wasn't for the fact that I don't want to do something rash I'd be almost tempted to turn around and tell her about transitioning as a result of what she's just done. Just get it done and be shot of her two-faced nature once and for all.

Or perhaps I should simply see if I can find Marion on Facebook and renew my friendship.

Tuesday, 1 June 2010

Second Person

Today for the second time, third if you count the twice I've been asked by the same person, I was asked, by someone who knows I'm doing, whether I thought I'd fancy men or women once I've transitioned.

I can honestly say that I don't know. I know that that there are some women that I fancy, including the one that asked me but she doesn't know that. There is one other woman that I'm attracted to. In both these cases I'm pretty sure that the feeling wont be reciprocal. One of them is a friend and getting into a relationship with me would be frowned upon, even if I wasn't trying to become the woman I know I should be.

The other is Zee. We chat and get along fine. We have some interests in common but even though she's gazed ino my eyes, while applying makeup or checking my eye lash tint, she's never shown an interest in a more personal way. Mind you she's told me that she's going to take me shopping when the time is right. I can't wait for that.

As I've got the house to myself this week I've managed to put on some makeup and a few outfits. Couple of pictures of my efforts. I do like being able to pull my hair back into a pony tail. Roll on the day my own hair is long enough to do that.

Peaceful week

Its 5:50am on Tuesday morning and I'm sitting in bed, drinking a cup of coffee and listening to the rain falling and the birds singing outside.
A complete change in the weather from yesterday which was warm and sunny when I met up with my mother-in-law halfway to their place so that my wife and son could go to stay with them for the week. I'll be seeing them again on Friday but in the meantime I have some time to myself.
Today I'm getting a bodywax with Zee at the salon and will probably spend the evening in full makeup and one of the dresses I bought last week. Thursday I have the day off work and will be pampering myself and making myself look nice as I have a visitor coming for lunch, yes finally me and the bf are going to meet up.
The rest of the week I'm going to be busy as I'm taking part in a children's holiday club in the mornings, I'm doing some puppets. The remaining time I'll be in work. I'm so tempted to slip home after holiday club and throw on a pair of panties and tights to wear under my male clothes.
Other than the busyness from holiday club and work I've got a really nice peaceful week to look forward to.