The other article I wrote for work is being published on our news hub as part of something being put together for November's Transgender Day of Remembrance. It took the form of some questions. Here's my responses. Feel free to add you're own in the comments or even use them for a post of your own.
does TDOR mean to you?
me Transgender Day of Remembrance is a time when I can remember all
of those who aren’t as lucky as me. Those people that live in parts
of the world where being transgendered means the possibility of being
taunted, abused, raped, beaten and even killed.
means being able to think about those people that live in the UK that
suffer abuse or violence for simply trying to be themselves. It’s
also a time for remembering those who have finally reached the point
where they can’t go on any more, whether that be due to the
pressure of trying to live as the person that they should have been
from birth while struggling to make ends meet or having to deal with
other forms of pressure. A time to reflect on the struggles we are
all going through to finally be ourselves and to think about how we
can help and support each other.
being Transgendered / Trans, means to you?
transgendered is a bit like a journey. Mine began when I first
realised that I was different to the boys I grew up with and felt
more of an affinity with the girls I knew in school.
As my journey
progressed and I began to understand more about both myself and my
trans state I moved through different ways of seeing myself until I
reached the point where I accepted that I was transsexual and decided
to do something about it.
continue to see myself as transgendered until physically, mentally,
emotionally and spiritually I’m finally the female I’ve always
been deep down. On that day I feel
I will be
complete and I’ll no longer be transgendered but simply the woman I
always have been deep down inside.
transgendered has opened up my world and inadvertently introduced me
to others that are going through similar to me, which has in turn
enabled me to share my experiences and offer support. Through blogs I
follow I’ve become acquainted with others not only in this country
but in the USA and Canada.
experience with Trans / Transgender issues you have had?
transition has been fairly uneventful. I’ve had a few issues with
family but nothing serious.
aware of the issues that transgender people face in society. Loss of
friends, loss of income, having people see you as the gender you were
born and not the one that you are, loss of home, feeling suicidal and
acting on it.
transgender and doing something about it is, despite what a lot of
uninformed people think, not something that we do lightly or on a
whim. It’s something we do in order to be at peace with ourselves
and in some cases the only way that we can go on living.
have friends who are transgender that I’ve made through online
forums, the GIC I attend, through other friends and blogs I follow.
Each of us have our
own issues that we
are dealing with, each of us is at different places in our journey
but we can draw on our experiences to help each other to get through
the tough times and celebrate the good times.
does it feels like to be Transgendered / Trans in the work place?
work in a great office and I know a lot of brilliant people. When I
returned to work after beginning my transition I was a bit nervous
but within hours it was like nothing had changed.
experienced a couple of occasions when I’ve been mis-gendered and
for the most part people have corrected themselves when they realise.
On several occasions it’s occurred and the person involved had not
realised. Such occasions are not done in an offensive way nor are
they to frequent so I tend to ignore them.
to day, work is fine and I’ve not had any troubles. I’m more
confident about myself than I was when I started my transition and I
would happily act as front runner on a project or activity now.
Admittedly I would probably feel a bit self-conscious about my voice
but I’d manage. My voice is something I still have to work on,
especially when I’m using the phone. I’ve had one occasion so far
when someone rung me up about something non-work related and wanted
to speak to the old
me because that’s how I was down on their system. When they asked
to speak to me I said “yes” at which point the phone went quiet
and after a few seconds I realised that they were waiting to speak to
someone that sounded a lot more masculine. Having someone hear you
speak on the phone and not take you for a male, which is what they
must have done, was a really good moment.
the end of the day being transgendered in the workplace means that I
don’t have to pretend to be someone I wasn’t any more and can be
more honest and less distracted than I used to be.